Why a A New Science of Human Relationships®?

It’s fairly obvious, if we think about it for just a minute, that we are ‘designed’ to grow. On a physical level we grow from infancy to adolescence to adulthood and into old age. On the mental level we learn and accumulate knowledge. On the emotional level we’re challenged to learn self control, and on a spiritual level, if we’re lucky, we become wise.

Collectively we also grow and evolve. That’s obvious from expansion in the ages of growth historically: For instance, renaissance to industrial to information. In each era there are men and women who make great contributions, and groups who choose not to change with the times. The former become well established icons and the latter fade into distant memory.

The paradigm of electricity:

In the mid 1800’s electricity began being applied in practical ways. On October 22, 1879 Thomas Edison conducted his first successful test of the electric filament. These and other events around the use of electricity changed the way human beings function, interact and think. In particular, the advent of electricity allowed for new ways of thinking about ourselves. We could begin to understand, for instance, the nervous system within the model of electric impulses traveling along nerves. We also began receiving and sending information along phone, television and cable. Within the paradigm of electricity new treatments and medicines could be developed and old antiquated concepts abandoned. The idea of ‘energy control’ within the body is still developing and allowing for growth personally and collectively.

The wireless age, networking and globalization:

Now we enter a new era, one in which we are, rather quickly, changing to see and understand an expanded view of our world and therefore of ourselves. We can agree that no person, group, society or culture exists alone but rather in relation to others. We experience a world of wireless technology that allows acceptance of invisible connections between us along vast distances. The practical aspects of these forced realizations are yet to be widely accepted in any other than economic terms. And again, we can likely agree about the myriad ways in which we’re effected but are blind to those effects until, maybe, it become personally challenging.

A practical phenomenology:

Through the application of insights of Bert Hellinger and demonstrations of the mysterious connection between human beings, we have an opportunity to quickly realize how we may be affected by disturbances in the systemic dynamics (through the ‘wireless connections’) of our families and the groups to which we belong. Simply put, we no longer have the luxury to ignore that we are bound together and depend on others in deep and lasting ways. In the positive this works for our own survival; in the negative through entanglements that may cause inappropriate idiosyncrasy, illness, and failure. Without a systemic model solutions are often difficult to find and apply. As a systemic paradigm, integration and acceptance of those within the system who have been excluded, rejected, disdained, or blamed brings with it a movement towards wholeness and healing. To refuse such experience is to be left behind, applying old ‘technology’ to a newly widening world of opportunity.