Participation in systemic constellation is of potentially deep value to those in any particular group. What we see, and what we learn, we can identify as “a new science of human relationships.” Primarily experiential, difficult to assimilate through the written word, there are aspects that we try to describe in conceptual terms that open to understanding.

One important example is the Orders of Love as a series of laws identified through the work of Hellinger over many decades.

“THE FUNDAMENTAL DYNAMIC IN FAMILY SYSTEMS THAT ALL MEMBERS HAVE AN EQUAL RIGHT TO BELONG DOES NOT TOLERATE INJURY. Whenever someone in the family system is excluded, a need arises in the system for compensation. This compensatory dynamic leads to the excluded or disdained family member being represented by a younger family member who is unaware of and helpless against the identification.” B.H.

Such identification is called “entanglement.” Signs of entanglements include but are not limited to:

• Unresolved issues expressed as impulsive, inappropriate actions and intense feelings;
• Inappropriate, intense emotion or behavior;
• Fanaticism about being right;
• Life challenges including illnesses and failures;
• Difficulty with partners or finding right partners;
• Judgments about or toward members of previous generations.

Entanglements occur through the exclusion, rejection, accusation, blame or disdain of any member of the family system. Energy and love are blocked, and illness and failure may result. One solution is to bring the member back into the group energetically, as is done in constellation. The effects are often far reaching and the participants often feel as if a weight has been lifted and a new door of perception opened to them. In this way we approach greater wholeness, healing and are more able to achieve and feel what we want.